It’s been a long time since I’ve gazed at your reflection and liked what I’ve seen. My constant need to criticize you causes me to hide you from the world by covering you in over-sized clothing.
When I get compliments, I always shrug them off as being because that person is trying to console me for being so ugly. Why can’t I ever be happy with how you look?
Does this dialogue sound familiar? If you’re like many women today, this dialogue, to some degree, may be spoken internally at least once a day. Negative thoughts about ourselves can literally brainwash us into believing that we are ugly, inadequate, and unworthy. This self-inflicted mental abuse can even cause us to push away the people we love most: our spouse, significant other, or family.
Is Society Causing Us to Torture Ourselves?
The stress and pressure put on women today is unreasonable on so many levels. “Be the youngest, thinnest, most beautiful woman or you’ll lose your man, your job, and your self-esteem.” Is this really true? Are we so misled to believe that advertisements in the media, TV, and magazines should be our measure of worth as women? Do we actually believe that looking like a celebrity, actress, or model is our key to happiness?
Strip away the facade and see these things for what they really are:
- Advertisements are crafted to appeal and influence us on a deep psychological level. They do not portray real life or how people actually react when placed in those situations.
- Photographs of models and celebrities are photo-shopped to make it look like they have a perfect body with no flaws.
- Many models and celebrities have “come out” recently with admissions of falling victim to their industry pressures to stay thin by using illegal drugs or developing an eating disorder.
- Magazines and other forms of photo-based media can contribute to Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), a mental disorder in which the person cannot see their body in real terms.
Give Yourself the Gift of Positive Thinking
With Valentine’s Day upon us, it’s time to think about those we love. When it comes down to it, if you’re finding that you spend every day hating your body and covering it up, isn’t it time to fix that?
Fixing it involves several important steps to building self-worth and self-esteem:
- Stop looking at other women’s appearance and trying to “measure up” to them. Models and actresses (on TV or in photos) are either airbrushed, photo-shopped, or can even be pushed to the point of drug addiction and eating disorders to cope with pressures.
- Begin by looking in the mirror every morning with nothing on. Tell yourself one positive affirmation about your physical appearance every day – and smile when you say it!
- Start a journal to discuss and sort out why you feel unhappy with your appearance. Sometimes writing it out will reveal some deeper issues such as those that stem from childhood.
- Therapy may be a viable option for those who have been so negative that they are unable to rise out of the pit of self-defeat they are used to being in.
Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU
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For patients who are desiring plastic surgery for the right reasons, we are happy to help them correct or enhance areas of the face and body that are causing them distress. Nose injuries, post-weight loss, after pregnancy, and many other situations can all be excellent reasons for getting cosmetic surgery.
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